A teenage girl who was gang raped by six teenage boys of the same school as hers. Why? She thought she was in love with one of them. He misused her trust and blackmailed her with nude pictures and videos of them together while forcing her to ‘please’ his friends too. Having no one to turn to (she lost most of them as she was always with this boy) she attempted suicide but was saved in the nick of time when taken to the hospital. Parents asked to cover up the entire thing fearing social stigma and refused to even listen to her, branding her as spoilt, uncaring, irresponsible, raising her guilt bar further up. They even refused any counseling sessions to get her out of the trauma after her treatment.
Trust, innocence, peer pressure, media hype – teenager brain processes.
Reminds me of Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.”
All of us have instances where our trust was breached in a big or a small way and this breach is because of a lie of some kind. Result – a loss of trust, in self and in others. For some the trust battery gets so low that they feel the only way to recharge or retaliate is do the same to others ending up serving sentences.
At this point the girl most needed forgiveness, guidance, assurance and protection.
Colossians 1:13-14 He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.
James 1:5-8 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.
King James Version (KJV)
And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever.
Isaiah 41:10 ESV
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Parents don’t notice signs of mishaps like these sometimes even when they seem to be screaming at their face.
An open culture at home where a child is comfortable to be themselves and ask questions freely avoids them believing any media frenzy or fake fads of the world that creeps in.
It took the wise intervention of a lady doctor and her counselor friend of hers to bring to task all the wrong doers and fill this girl with the right thoughts such that she stood for herself and others like her and talked boldly to the media about what she went through.
A difficult story to tell I found on Freshly Pressed is truly an inspiration, a first hand view of what goes on in the mind of the person having to go through such an ordeal.